Recently, I came across a quote that was just absolute brilliance. It was one of those quotes that ultimately stopped me dead in my tracks. It had that "Whooooooah" factor. It was just that good.
20 Things That Women Should Stop Wearing After The Age of 30
1-20: The weight of other people's expectations & judgements
I hope that after Maura wrote this she followed up with some sort of "drop the mic" action because she literally nailed it. This is exactly what so many of us need to hear. And quite honestly, over 30 or under 30, we can all gain a bit of insight from this.
Here's the thing, at 34, I can say that this was probably me from age 16 on. That's more than half of my life. All that extra weight, year after year, it gets heavy, right? So what gives? Why do we hold what others think in such high regard?
Why do we worry so much about what others think? Why is this so heavy on our shoulders sometimes to the point that the things we do are not for ourselves, but for the sake of what others may think? And how do we turn this all around?
Imagine the way you feel behind closed doors, in the comfort of your own home, no make up, comfy sweats, hair exactly the way it was when you woke up. You can breathe, you can relax, you can just be...well, you. But the minute you walk out the door like this, if you even allow it, all you do is pray that you don't see anyone that you know. Because of course, what in the world would they think if they knew the real you! Imagine that! But what do you owe them? Why does this matter? For so many of us, it just does. And if we do run into that person we know, what do we do? We apologize. We instantly put ourselves down that we look such a mess or something of the sort.
Enough is enough.
It's time, no matter what age you may be to stop carrying all of that extra weight. It's time that you let go of whether others think you are pretty enough, a good enough mother, thin enough, a hard enough worker, etc., etc., ETC. You are worth it. And if your worth is determined by others then that is just no way to live. No more.
How do we do this? That's where the tough part comes in. It's a practice. It takes time. It is allowing yourself to feel comfortable in your own skin exactly as you are. It is reminding yourself that you don't owe anyone any explanation for the things you do, the way you look, the way you are. Just. Be. You. And everyday, remind yourself of Maura's quote if that's what it takes. No more wearing the weight of other people's expectations and judgements. No more.
Ok, now that we have digested the food for though, it's time to have some food for the belly! And boy am I excited to share this one. So simple, so delicious, and packed with so much goodness.
I had some extra cauliflower recently that was on it's way to going bad. I didn't want to roast it or eat it with hummus so I decided to shake things up and do something I had never done before: make cauliflower rice and add it to a salad. And, well, the results were everything I dreamed of and more. This Black Bean + Cauliflower Rice Salad is going to be your new favorite salad to tote along to your BBQ's this summer. It has just the right amount of spice and takes your typical black bean salad to the next level with the addition of the cauliflower rice. If you want to make it even better, add cubed avocado when you serve it. Oh. My. Goodness. It's amazing!
If you have never made cauliflower rice before it's really simple. You add cauliflower florets to a food processor or blender and pulse until the cauliflower becomes a rice-like texture. It's really versatile so don't let this be the only recipe you use it with! Try it with this Cauliflower Fried Rice as well, and so many others!
- 1 small head cauliflower approx. 3 cups cauliflower rice
- 1 can or 2 cups black beans rinsed (pre-cooked)
- 1 red bell pepper
- 1/2 c shelled edamame heaping cup
- 1/2 c corn kernels frozen organic if possible
- 1 small jalepeño or green chile optional
- Juice of 1 lime
- 2 garlic cloves minced
- 1/3 c chopped cilantro
- 3 T red wine vinegar
- 2 T extra virgin olive oil
- 1/4 tsp crushed red pepper
- Sea salt and cracked pepper to taste
- Dice red pepper, remove seeds from chile or jalepeño and dice. Add to mixing bowl.
- Rinse cauliflower and remove florets from stem. Add to food processor. Pulse cauliflower until the size of rice. (you can also do this in a blender on a very low speed.)
- Add cauliflower rice to bowl.
- Add corn, edamame, black beans, garlic and stir to combine.
- Add oil, vinegar, crushed red pepper, cilantro and salt and pepper to taste. Stir well to coat and combine.
- Chill for about 15 minutes before serving to really allow flavor to set.
- Serve with cubed avocado if desired.